What People are Saying

The Apply for Equality protest was amazing, and a bit of an emotional roller coaster! It felt surreal to stand alongside so many compassionate people including those of faith and clergy, in solidarity for LGBT rights.... I ended up speaking a little and wept several times, but the most powerful moment was when we sang "We Shall Overcome", and drowned out the bigots that showed up. Witnessing: Catholics, various Protestant denominations, a couple other alternative people, Jews, allies, Atheists, and so many LGBT people come together to stand up for what's right; was beautiful!
I've certainly seen some of humanity at its worst and it's worn me down, but I've also seen people come together to stand for what's right...it rekindled a bit more faith in humanity.
Can't wait to do this again next year too! :)" ~AP

Hope

Justin mentioned in his post today that today his adrenaline rush is over and now he's crashed. I definitely have an element of that today - especially when I look around my trashed house and the pile of schoolbooks that I've barely cracked this week. But I have not experienced the "spiritual crash" he has. It's understandable, as much passion that I have for this issue, my rights are not being infringed upon. I am married to the love of my life. I can walk hand in hand with my husband without any fear of harrassment. I know that I'll never be fired because of my sexual-orientation. I can empathize but I will never never truly know how any of  those things feel.

Today, though, I have more hope. More hope, because for the first time ever, I witnessed faith leaders in my community stand up and lend their voices in support of marriage equality. I also saw person after person become empowered to give their testimony, to speak their story, and demand the rights that are due them. I watched as people realize that they are not alone. I saw the birth of a community. Yesterday we arrived by ourselves or in pairs or small groups. But as we left, we left connected, bound to each other. Those ties are now stretched across the tri-state area and even further - invisible, gossamer threads that can be gathered up when we need to raise our voices together again.

Nothing has changed on the face of things. But hearts have been soothed, souls have been lifted up, and minds have been galvanized.

Sugar Rush

Everyone knows that great 'Rush' feeling. As kids, we would bounce off the walls on a sugar rush. As adults, we sometimes get our rushes in other ways, caffeine, alcohol, adrenaline. The problem with each of these is the crash.

Yesterday was a sugar rush. It made my heart soar to see the couples, hear the speeches and feel the love. To make a public statement that I WANT the man in my life to be my legally wedded husband made my heart swell further. I am not ashamed of our relationship and I proudly walked into the courthouse hand in hand with him.

But today I'm living on the crash side. I dug out the stories and our 'rejection letter' from last year. I don't know why that brought me down, but it did.  Same exact letter. Nothing has changed. The prosecuting attorney didn't even bother to write a new letter. He brought up a file from his documents folder, changed the date and sent it on to the clerks. They did use a different high lighter this year. I guess thats progress.

Yesterday was a rush. Today I'm tired. Tired of this state and its people make us live in such a way. Tired by the fact that they brush off my relationship, my LOVE, with a few short paragraphs on cheap letterhead. Tired from the hurt it brings to receive and read these letters and then that moment that it sinks in that the letters really say, "You are not equal." Tired from the thoughts of 'how much longer, how many more letters?'

How long until the piece of paper we are handed changes and instead of the day after crash, I can go on an extended rush as we begin to plan our wedding, right here in the place we call home.

I'm tired but I'm not giving up. I'm down but I'm not out. I've crashed, but I'll heal. There are positive days ahead.

-Justin

Interfaith Service

This year we are adding an interfaith service to our schedule. We feel it is important to give voice to the many faiths and denominations that support marriage equality. Too many people have heard for too long that you can't be LGBTQ (or someone who supports them) and still be a person of faith. We are blessed to have several clergy members in this area that are willing to stand up and add their voices to this important conversation.

The interfaith service will begin at 10:15am

Order of Service

Invocation and Welcome - Rev. Bonnie Boyce

Reading - Rev. Robin Blakeman

Song - Matthew Shank

Reading  - Father Lark Muncy

Remarks - Rev. Kay Albright

Closing and Prayer - Rabbi Jean Eglinton

We're Getting Close!

We are getting excited!! Are you? Our guest list on Facebook now totals 106 going and another 83 maybes. We have also heard from our t-shirt vendor that 25 shirts have been bought - thank you to all who bought a shirt to speak your message loudly (and thanks for supporting a local business).

We will have guests from as far away as North Carolina, several local church leaders who will be joining us for an interfaith service to kick off things, and we will have a PA system set up to give YOU the opportunity to step up and speak out in favor of marriage equality!

On Wednesday, February 13th, we will have a sign-making gathering at First Steps Drop-In Center, 516 7th Street, Huntington, at 7:30pm. If you would like to make your own signs please make sure to keep them respectful and on-point.

Our event will officially kick-off at 10am. We will be situated at  the corner of 4th Avenue & 8th Street.

General Schedule

10:00am - gather at 4th Avenue & 8th Street
10:15am - interfaith service
11:00am - couples begin entering the courthouse to apply for marriage licenses
               - at this time we will also have an open mic for those wishing to speak
1:45pm - closing remarks
2:00pm - the end, see you next year!

Protest Etiquette

Some protest etiquette tips. Basically, we want to make our voice heard in the most positive light possible. Be respectful, be polite, and ignore those who are not reciprocating.

1) For couples going in to apply for licenses, please be as polite and nice to the clerks as humanly possible. We are NOT there to argue with them or be angry with them. They are simply doing their job and following the law and we are already making their day stressful enough.

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2) PLEASE DON'T FEED THE STUPID. There will likely be some counter protesters. They should not matter to us. We will not change their opinions. They will not change ours. Getting in a yelling match with them will simply dilute our message, and make it negative. Our message is a positive one. Its about equality and love. Plain and simple. Leave them to do their own thing and ignore them as much as you would the bench they're sitting on.

Peace!

Save the date!

If you are able to help the evening before the protest, we will be having a gathering to make signs and do some last minute planning on Wednesday the 13th at 7:30.  This will take place at First Steps Wellness & Recovery center located at 516 7th Street.  This is near the courthouse and right behind First Congregational UCC. This will serve as a meet & greet as well so please come by if you can!

The Press Release

‘Apply for Equality’ event to be held for 2^nd year this Valentines Day

Supporters of marriage equality to Rally once more at Cabell County courthouse.

For immediate release:

-Huntington, WV 1/31/2013  A grassroots group of LGBT citizens and supporters plan to rally again at the Cabell County courthouse in Huntington, WV on Valentine’s day. Encouraged by the first “Apply for Equality” event last February 14^th, the organizers, Justin Murdock and fiancé William Glavaris along with straight ally, Raine Klover are preparing for a bigger and better presence for 2013.

The event will begin at 10am and run until 2pm. During this time, there will be a rally outside the courthouse where supporters of same sex marriage will display signs expressing their views and several short speeches supporting marriage equality will be made. At the same time, same sex couples will be entering the courthouse to apply for marriage licenses.

“We understand and realize that just as last year, we will be turned down this year,” says Justin, who, hand-in-hand with fiancé William, applied for a license during last years event. “Its not about actually thinking we can get the license, but making a public statement that we want equal rights to marriage in the state of WV. There is momentum building for marriage equality on a state by state level and the federal level and we just want our friends and neighbors here in Cabell county and across WV to know that it is not some ‘far away’ issue, but an issue that affects nearly 40,000 LGBT residents right here in WV. Its time for a positive dialogue on marriage equality here at home.”

The organizers have been very busy advertising for the event and urging attendees to share the event via social media. Raine also designed an official logo, a fitting and simple design of an ‘equal’ sign inside a heart shape, which will appear on posters and T-shirts for the rally.

For more information, please visit:  http://applyforequality.blogspot.com

Or email: applyforequality@yahoo.com

Below is a copy of the flyers we are posting around town. Please feel free to click on the link below to download and print copies to share!

Click to download an 8 1/2 x 11 version to print at home.